I can’t be the only one that doesn’t know how to respond to a compliment. How often does someone say “oh, you look cute” and you respond “thank you…I got this for $$$ at [fill in the blank].”
Now, let me tell you what happened to me recently. I went with my husband to his chiropractic visit. His chiropractor is a family friend we met years ago at church. When she told me that she liked my pants, I should have just said thank you. But no. I began to tell her that I bought them for fifty cents from a thrift store. She did not seem to know how to respond. And I can’t blame her. She did not ask for that information. A simple “thank you” would have been sufficient.
Now, I do get excited about the deals I get, but sometimes such details are not necessary. It almost seems like a way to deflect a nice sentiment. It’s as if we are apologetic and embarrassed about being complimented. Like we don’t want anyone else to elevate us. Seems extreme huh?
I have a family friend who makes excuses when you give her a compliment. She says something like “this old thing”. The irony is that I have told her to just say thank you. Yet, I have found myself doing the same thing.
But also, without realizing it, you may be making the other person feel awkward. All they wanted to do was give you a compliment. And by you diminishing it, they may now feel the need to follow up with why you are worthy of that compliment. That is not their job.
Well, here’s some good news for you. You are worthy of the compliment. You did not ask for it. You did not hint at it. So just graciously say thank you. There is a time and a place to give all the details. Like on your next fashion post or to your fellow bargain hunter. Hey girl hey!
So take that compliment. And freely give one back when necessary. There is nothing wrong with being told something nice about yourself. Hope you enjoyed this Comfies! Have a great day friends!